Thursday, May 24, 2012

It's been a long time


Hello. Well 66 was our number. It kept going up, not always the case. It took many months for me to feel secure (almost the whole pregnancy), there were some bumps along the way but they were minor and in October 2012 our son was born. To recount: we used a different donor one who is/was proven. in other words had donated to "successful cycles" were the outcome was a baby. That may be the single most important attribute you want in a donor. Certainly what she looked like, her skills, those did not matter. Most of that is advertising, or feels like it. For me it began to feel like i was trying to find myself, only fertile. So i dropped that with this donor. Chose one who looks like our daughter, didn't care what she did, did care about previous cycles and cared about her health and that of her extended family. Our boy looks like himself. He is a joy. We love him dearly. again it doesn't matter how you get there, how your family gets made, you will love that soul that comes to your family. Well i do. also WE TOLD OUR DAUGHTER a version of her DONOR EGG story. She knows there was a lady who gave us a missing part and that's how she and her brother were made. She is four. It seemed appropriate. Maybe I'll post more on the telling part, but frankly this blog has been defunct for sooooooooooo long i just wanted to post something more to tie things up in case anyone (you?) came by for a gander.

7 comments:

Clare (smiling scar) said...

That is wonderful news.. congrats! so glad your journey is where it is. All the best and thanks for taking the time for the quick update.

Sue said...

Congratulations - it's always nice to get an update and I'm glad things have gone so well for you.

Sue said...

Congratulations! It's always nice to get an updated, and I'm glad things have gone so well for you and your family.

stacyb said...

Thank you both for stopping by, I appreciate the support.

Kristina Mobley said...

We are just starting down the DE path, and reading your blog has helped me find acceptance and peace, and has answered a lot of my questions. Thank you!!!

Kristina said...

I came across your blog while researching the DE process. We are just beginning our journey. Reading about your experience in building your family helped me find acceptance and peace, and answered a lot of the questions I'd been asking. Thanks,and best wishes!

stacyb said...

Kristina, glad you found this blog and that it could help. It's certainly not the path we think of when we think of having kids but I feel so lucky to have been able to do this.

Best wishes to you too.