Thursday, October 14, 2010

What Control?

So all is set for a transfer this coming Tuesday. Our donor had 25 eggs retrieved and we get the fertilization results tomorrow. Great right? Yes and we are now, of course, agonizing about whether to put on or two back. Twins would be a lot. And then we think, but my gosh could we actually be that lucky that two would take on the first go? And of course this is all so hypothetical and all about this illusion of control over details when you have a child this way. Details that we have no control over whatsoever. Tuesday will be transfer. I’m up. Our obgyn said, given my past pregnancy (the one with our first donor cycle) she things, besides some possible discomfort toward the end, I should go for two embryos as we would have more of a chance of a pregnancy that way. Maybe I was looking for a medical reason not to try two, I don’t know. At any rate I think, at the moment, our feeling it to go for it because well, we wont try this again. Its sort of our last shot. I would love to expand our family, am satisfied with what we have, and well, this is sort of it . Also not getting any younger. I turned 42 last month.

So there it is. If anyone still reads this, please send your good thoughts our way.

10 comments:

Summer said...

Still reading and trying to send as many good thoughts your way as I possibly can!

I understand the one or two dilemma and I think if I was in your position, I would do the same, ie transfer 2. Something my RE said to me after all our failed FETs really sticks with me and that is that the ovaries are really are made to make one good egg even though medicine can try to create more and they can retrieve more than one mature egg per stimulation. The whole point of retrieving multiple mature eggs per stimulation is to try to find that good one.

That isn't to say there can't be more than one good egg per stimulation, of course but more often than not there isn't.

Good luck!!

Sue said...

Good luck - I hope this cycle completes your family. Please let us know how things turn out.

Janie Marsh said...

Hi there. I just found your blog. Great to get 25! I am blogging (slowly) about my DE experience too. Good luck!

Julie said...

Ohhh, very best of luck to you. I really hope this is it.

Anonymous said...

I just came across your blog and am so thankful. I'll be thinking of you.

Kami said...

I still read! I am a bit behind on everything though.

How did transfer go? What is the news?

I am sending you good thoughts!

I will be turning 43 in just 2 months. How did that happen? ;)

Peaches said...

sending a ton of sticky vibes and grow baby prayers your way...

m said...

good thoughts! good thoughts! good thoughts!!!!!!

stacyb said...

oh my gosh...thank you, all of you, for your kind thoughts. you have no idea what it means to me that you all responded, and all took the time to read my post. You support is amazing.

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