Sunday, January 10, 2010

Nurture vs. nurture


As you can see I don’t post that often anymore but I think there may still be a few things worth sharing for DE moms and those thinking of becoming DE parents.

Here it is: I think I’ve become so much more conscious of who I am and what I do, how I react, assessing my values, or family values because I know that the thing I pass on to our daughter is my morals, my actions, and my example not the genetics. So I can’t say oh well at least she gets X from me since I messed up raising her. Nope, I get raising our daughter, period. What I can show her through my actions versus what she’s received simply by being born. And ultimately that’s what it’s about. Your looks and your natural talents are just that. It’s the person who embodies it that makes the difference and as a DE mom that’s the input I get.

It’s nice. It keeps me grounded while staying on my toes.


Summer said...

I think this is so true. I believe there is a genetic propensity for certain behaviors, etc. but that doesn't mean you can't influence them to direct their behaviors in a certain manner. I can't change the propensity but I can influence them.

So glad you are posting even if it's occasionally! I really should post more, too, but it's hard to find the time these days. But I still try to read and keep up with blogs!

Kami said...

I have been mentally composing a similar post. I think if she was of my genetics, I would expect her to be a certain way - maybe I would try to make her a certain way. As it is, I see myself as her guide not as her maker. I think that may lead to a more thoughtful approach to parenting.

Nice to hear from you!